10/03/2025
In Hawaii, it has always been every little gay boy’s dream to either become Miss Universe or a Hawaiian Airlines flight attendant. After all, a flight attendant is often the very first person a visitor encounters when arriving to the islands. They embody aloha—not just as a greeting, but as a living expression of warmth, beauty, elegance, hospitality, and humility. In Hawaiian culture, humility is often expressed through ha‘aha‘a, a sense of respectful modesty that honors others. Flight attendants carry that spirit forward in every interaction.
As I get older, I find myself reflecting on what really matters. Recently, I even went DoorDashing with friends—not just for the extra income, but as a way to bond and laugh together. It reminded me of a patient I once cared for in hospice: a hardworking Filipino man who never had the chance to enjoy his pension before passing away. Among Filipinos, there is a deeply rooted concept called sipag at tiyaga (diligence and perseverance), tied to survival and security. Work becomes a measure of worth, and sometimes life slips away while we are too busy working to live. Of course, this isn’t only Filipino—it’s a human truth. Life is too short. If you are struggling, choose joy over status, happiness over money, and authenticity over appearances.
Right now, there are no flight attendant positions open, but I will keep applying. I was reminded of this dream during a conversation with my nursing school friend, Summer Chin Murray, who now works as a Hawaiian Airlines flight attendant. Once, while in South Korea, I saw a crew from Air India stepping out early in the morning. They wore elegant, sari-inspired uniforms—draped fabric with graceful wraps—that reflected centuries of tradition. They held their heads high, not with arrogance (high maka maka in Hawaiian, meaning pretentiousness), but with dignity. Their pride came from representing their airline, their culture, and the very idea of hospitality.
Someone once told me that nursing is a “one-sided” profession—alaga in Filipino, meaning care, given freely, without expecting anything in return. That type of service is both beautiful and exhausting. Hospitality, too, carries a s